Hey, guys! I’m Charlo Greene, here to arm you with the information you need to keep fighting for a better business, fighting for better relationships, fighting for a better life.
Today, we’re talking intentional goal setting and smart goal getting. Go ahead and subscribe if you haven’t, because we are just getting started.
Now, yesterday I got a message from a member of The Fight Club, Karen M. She asked, “Hey Charlo, loved your video on resilience. Wanted to know if you could give me some advice on setting better goals? I try to be proactive about things like losing weight and advancing my career, but when it comes down to getting results, I just end up passed my deadline, feeling like a failure with nothing to show. Got any advice that can help?”
Well, Karen, I literally wrote the book on creating the life you really want and conquering anything you set your mind to, called F*ck It: a Guide to Letting Go and Living Free. Yes, I can help.
Today, I’m sharing the three step process you need to define and conquer any goal you set for yourself.
The big thing about goal setting that no one tells you is that it’s so easy to set yourself up for failure before you even start, simply because you weren’t using the correct language to describe your goals. You’re not framing your aspirations in a way that draws a distinction between your actual goals, and fantasies in your mind.
When something is just a fantasy, you don’t act on it because you know that’s all it’ll ever be. So, before we get to framing our desires so that the universe receives them as commands as opposed to weak suggestions, we’re starting with step one.
Set your intention. A lot of the time we think we want the car, when it’s really the destination we’re after. If we’re talking literal cars as goals, if a shiny red Ferrari is a goal, take it a step further and own that what you really want is the admiration and prominence that comes from owning a car like that because it’ll show the world that you matter. What you really want is to matter.
We think we want a whole lot of money, but what we really want is financial independence and security to take care of the people we love. We think we want to lose weight and fit into that size four dress, but what we really want is to be seen, accepted, and loved.
Never set the vehicle for your goal as the destination, which is what most people do and that’s what trips up most people.
Take a moment to do the work, and know your true intention behind your goals, and use that to fuel you all the way toward claiming them. That’s step one. Set your intention.
Number two: once your intention is set, you need to frame your goal. This just won’t be any old goal, this will be a S.M.A.R.T goal. One that’s specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, and timely. S-M-A-R-T.
It starts with being specific. I’d like to go on vacation is a goal most people have. Real quick, is this a goal you set for yourself in the last few years, drop a sunshine or smiley face emoji. This is a community, and I want to get the conversation nice and warmed up.
Now, going on vacation is a common goal and it isn’t a bad one, but it is vague. That vagueness will be it’s downfall. So, you have to ask yourself, when do you want to go on vacation? Where do you want to go? How long would you stay? How much money would you need, how much time off are you going to need?
These are questions that would be important regardless of your destination or time frame. Changing your goal to, I want to vacation in the Bahamas this summer takes the burden of where and when off the table and directs you toward the next batch of questions that need answering for you to define your goal and make it specific.
In any case, any goal you make should have a set of identifiable boundaries, set by the actuality of your desire.Then, because I don’t want to make this video too, too long, I’m going to quickly get through the M-A-R-T part.
Measurable. A measurable goal is one you can determine the benefits of, because you can see or measure the improvement it has on your life or lifestyle
Achievable. Now, I know that this seems obvious, but this is the different between setting goals and harboring fantasies. If you have a goal in mind, you need to ask yourself, what is necessary to accomplish it? You also need to be honest and realistic about what you’re willing and capable of putting in, in terms of skillset, resources, and time.
Realistic. If you’re a school teacher who hasn’t fought a day in their life, being the next MMA champ is probably just a fantasy, but let me say there’s nothing wrong with having great big goals. Just know that if you’re reaching for the stars, you need to be comfortable putting on a spacesuit, otherwise your goals need to be down to Earth.
Finally, any goal you set should be timely. Goals that have small windows of success are ultimately failed, which cripples your morale and can leave you bitter. Goals that are vague tend to be left on an endless timetable, which makes them seem unimportant and easy to abandon.
So, whenever you’re crafting your goal, make sure that it is S.M.A.R.T. That’s step two. Specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely.
Step three: be realistic and start where you currently stand. In my book, this is actually rule number one. You’ve got to be willing to see and accept where you truly stand to determine and appropriate course of action in any situation you want to change.
I use an analogy of a person in a car, ready to drive to LA. She’s got the map, she’s got the plan, her car is gassed up and ready. The only thing this, she’s in the Philippines with an ocean to cross. Before you start trying to drive across an ocean to get to your goals, look up. See the street signs into [inaudible 00:07:29] and rework your plans. Stop and be brutally honest in assessing where you stand before working toward that goal because all the planning in the world isn’t going to help you drive from the Philippines to Los Angeles. It’s just not.
So, to sum things up. Step one, set your intention.
Step two, set your S.M.A.R.T. goal.
Step three, be realistic and start where you stand.
Now that you know how to, drop a S.M.A.R.T. goal that you have for yourself in the comments. Maybe we can help each other hold each other accountable. This is a community after all.
My next video will be all about mastering manifestations, secret law of attraction, visualization, that sort of thing.
Right now, I’d love to hear from you in the comments section. What questions do you have about goals, manifesting, visualizing, or resilience that you’d like me to help with? Also let me know where you’re going to on your next vacation.
Like what you heard? My new book, F*ck It: A Guide to Letting Go and Living Free will be available on Amazon July 17th, in print, ebook, and audiobook, hello! I know this is a kind of book that can change your life, if you let it. Not just saying that because I wrote it, it’s actually … You can read the reviews for yourself, I’m not going to do that right now.
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Again, remember, there’s nothing wrong with having massive goals, but if you’re reaching for the stars, you need to be comfortable putting on a spacesuit.
Until next time, I’m Charlo Greene. Peace!